After a whirlwind month, I landed on the couch with a cold and read all four of the Twilight books my twelve year-old daughter has been obsessed with. I must confess, I enjoyed them more than I expected, though that shouldn’t necessarily be taken as a recommendation. I was in the mood for mindless.

Last night my daughter asked what I thought of them, so I gave her the list of things I liked and the things I didn’t, which she more or less agreed with. For the benefit of those wondering whether they should let their vampire obsessed daughters read the books, or for those who are just curious how Stephanie Myer sold 42 million copies in 2008 alone—Well, frankly, I can’t answer that one—here’s my take:

I like the underlying premise that it’s not who you are but what you choose to do that makes you good or bad. For those unfamiliar with the series, a seventeen year-old human falls in love with a vampire from a family that has chosen to be good and not kill people. They quench their thirst by hunting wildlife (without permits, an issue I’ll overlook here) and practice a great deal of self-control so that they can live among regular folks. The dad is so self-disciplined that he became a doctor, which naturally exposes him to human blood, something most vampires would not be able to stand without turning violent. Because he can control his baser instincts, he is able to do tremendous good.

The value of self-control runs throughout the series, especially in regards to sex, a message I have to say is welcome as we approach the teen years. Edward, the vampire, puts tight constraints on their sexual relationship because he doesn’t want to hurt (i.e. accidentally kill) Bella. So the first three books include a lot of careful kissing, holding hands, and looking into each other’s eyes—when the young lovers are not separated by bitter misunderstanding. When they marry in the forth book, they consummate their relationship in a very vaguely worded scene that my daughter showed me when the book came out to assure me there was nothing inappropriate. On reading the whole book, however, I was surprised to see just how much sex there was after the wedding. Vampires, because they don’t need to sleep, are able to get quite a bit more action than most mortals, a fact my daughter never mentioned. The scenes are not very explicit and always take place within a loving relationship, but realizing how much of this my daughter has read leaves me feeling a little behind in the preparing for adolescence department. (She officially becomes a teenager in less than two months.)

Other things I liked: the vampires and werewolves overcome deep-seated prejudices in order to work together and eventually become friends. The “it’s not who you are but what you do” theme repeats here, so that in the end vampires, humans, and werewolves are living in harmony. (If only humans could learn that lesson.) Compassion and peaceful resolution of conflicts are also valued, though there is at least one violent scene per book, usually when the unrepentant human-killing vampires show up. (As my son told a Quaker father about the film Twilight, “It’s not violent, except when they rip the bad vampire’s head off.”) Still, the grand finale of the last book, which looks like it might turn into a Lord-of-the-Rings type blood-bath, resolves with only one fatality because of skillful negotiation and Bella’s passion to protect the people she loves.

In terms of messages, the thing I liked the least was the way the two main males treated Bella. At least in the first three books, they were possessive, bossy, and controlling—a fact that might be excused in the story because they were trying to protect her from bad vampires, but which I think sets a bad example for male-female relationships in the real world. It is refreshing in the fourth book, when Bella becomes a vampire herself, and doesn’t need these guys protecting her every minute any more. She says herself that she is relieved to finally be in an equal relationship, and I found that a relief, too.

In terms of the writing…well, it’s not Harry Potter or, for that matter, The Historian, a beautifully written vampire novel by my friend Elizabeth Kostova. Thinking about the vampire novels that have sold so well leaves me wondering what it is about these tales that intrigues people so. Like Harry Potter or the Percy Jackson series, there is an invisible world of magic that most people are oblivious to. There’s struggle between good and evil. There is love and friendship. But 42 million copies in one year? It’s a mystery.